I Have Half An Hour and All The Time in the World

 

Actually, all the time in eternity.

Peace in my life came when the concept of living eternally finally sunk in, just a few years ago.  Slowly, very slowly, once it occurred to me that my life had to have more significance than I had given it for so many years, I started to feel something powerful within, my own energy.  Words are inadequate, it is a force.  It’s the energy of life and its eternal. It’s been there all along and is not to be taken for-granted.  It’s to be used to create the best we know how for ourselves and everything and everyone around us.

Sometimes creating means stepping back, observing, stepping out of our usual patterns.  When you least have time and it seems the world is against you that day, try purposely letting someone go ahead of you in line at the grocery store or in traffic.  Observe that you have just done something for someone else, but mostly for yourself. You’ve set a whole different string of events in place than might have been. You’ve shifted your mood to being relaxed, the mood of the person you were courteous to is now grateful and the events that will follow for each of you are different because you arrived at the next scene moments later than you might have and with a better attitude.  Who knows what disaster you may have found yourself in if you had remained in that hectic mode.

You can extrapolate this one seemingly insignificant choice out to something well down the road in your life, a shape shift.  Your life is completely different because of a conscious choice you made way-back-when.  Isn’t your life right now the result of all those choices you made in the past?  Were they conscious, purposeful choices that created a meaningful life for your future?  Did you create something wonderful?

Somehow, seeing my personal energy, my soul, as eternal helped me view this life with much more significance than previously.  With more patience, also.  It became important to make choices, no matter how small, that would be a sound foundation for whatever lies in my future.  Be it in this life or in eternity.

We all know that the Holiday Season can be hectic.  May I suggest that it is the perfect time to reflect, practice patience and do a little shape-shifting.  If you think you’ve got merely half an hour to do something, think again.  Is it the pressure making the choices or is it your best self choosing what is best for you and everyone around you?

Your power is tremendous. Can you feel it? It’s the root of life and we’re in it together.  What affects one affects the whole.

I wish you a peaceful and lovely Holiday Season. May you experience JOY in your heart and LOVE for your life.

Hugs,

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The Quiet

The Quiet | The Caregiving Cornerstone

Grateful.

I want to share this verse, which expresses magnificently the feeling of gratitude for a long life fully lived.

Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky.

                                                                              – Rabindranath Tagore

When the rain and storms of our lives can be viewed as enhancing color added to the beauty of our own life’s story, our soul has grown.  We feel love for all things earthly.  We are aware of eternity and see this life as an opportunity to face fear head on, knowing that the only way to deal with pain is to walk through it.  On the other side of pain is the Quiet.  The Peace. The Acceptance. “My Sunset Sky.”

Thanksgiving is a way of life.  Gratitude fills our hearts with love.

Love and Hugs to all,

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Grandma’s Love Bugs

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One day recently, while at the little engraving shoppe where I work on Main Street, USA, an elderly lady approached the counter. From behind it, I was able to observe her demeanor as she walked toward me with a question on her mind. The unusual thing was the anguish her question seemed to evoke in her. I could almost feel pain as she asked if we could make a T-shirt for her with her grandchildren’s names on it. She had seen the one on display in the front window and wanted one like it.

Usually, writing an order for “GRANDMA’S LOVE BUGS” is fun. We make the list of the children’s names, specify if it’s a boy or girl so a boy or girl love bug, a frisky little bumble bee or maybe an adorable little butterfly can be pictured along with each name. This nice lady wasn’t rude in any way. She just kept a strikingly unemotional, unfriendly, distance as she asked how she could order the T and we proceeded. She would have five names of her grandchildren on the shirt; two boys and three girls, each would be pictured by one of the designers sweet little cartoon love bugs. We completed the order for a next day pick-up and she left the shoppe as solemnly as she had entered.

Don’t you just wonder sometimes, what has occurred in people’s lives that buries any sparkle or enthusiasm for life? You want to reach in and take that hurt away and see a little peace for that soul that’s suffering under still difficult circumstances. A little more love in that persons life might have made such a difference.

The next day the lady came in to pick-up her T. As I unfolded the pale pink shirt with the three sweetest little girl butterflies and two frisky little boy bumble bees, each barring the name of one of her grandchildren, I witnessed the sudden unveiling of emotion this woman had stored in her heart for who knows how long. Her eyes filled with tears as they brightened her face to a huge smile and you could see a wave of love wash over this beautiful soul for those children. She didn’t even try to cover it. Just said thank you as I packaged the shirt and handed it to her. We said goodbye and she left the store, as anonymously as she had entered the day before.

Well, you know I fell in love with that beautiful mysterious woman. I would most likely never see her again, but, she reminded me, as I hope to remind others, that often the quietest person in the room has the capacity to brighten the lives of thousands with the love that burns within them. They just need the right opportunity to share their beauty. They become memorable without ever knowing they left an impression.

Grandmas Love Bugs gave this woman something to feel wonderful about, again. I hope she wears the shirt often and relives the joy it brought her that day and that her grandchildren have the opportunity to feel the love she has for them.

It’s a beautiful day, please look for someone with whom you can fall in love. They’re around every corner. They often disguise themselves very well, so don’t be deceived by a ruff demeanor. Take a chance and ask a question, with a smile. “How are you doing today, sir?,” and listen, as you ask yourself silently, “Is this the one?”

I hope you feel love every day of your life.

 

Hugs,

 

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“Table For One, Please”

Everything is fresh and new to me in the small town I’ve found to live in while enjoying a new phase of my life.  I’ve shed the big city for another adventure.  This time in the mid-West.  I’m working in an enchanting little shop on Main Street, USA.  People come in to buy gifts, most often personally engraved with lovely sentiments they want to express to loved ones.  It’s easy to fall in love with people when they’re expressing their heartfelt feelings.  I get to see the best side of them.  Such a pleasure.

A few days ago, I had just said “Goodbye” to a couple who purchased a gift but didn’t know the exact wording they would use for the engraving.  It had to be perfect and part of it was to be in a foreign language.  They were going to call me later to complete the inscription. We were all excited to see how their creation would turn out.

With a light step, feeling good, I clocked out to have lunch at a restaurant across the street. I like the food there and the service had been very good both times I had eaten there, previously.  There’s usually a line out the door at lunch hour.  This day I walked in and could see they were busy, but there were a couple of empty tables so I felt lucky to have beaten the crowd.   The host greeted me with a menu in his hand.  “Table for one, please,” I said.  Right then that little jab of recognition hit me, I know it because I’ve eaten in restaurants alone for years.  “Sorry,” he said. “I don’t have a table for you now.”  My instinct told me that if I had asked for a table for two I would have been seated.  I, also, sensed that he knew that I knew he could have seated me.

Okay,  “Don’t take it personally,” I told myself. Some people think they’re going to lose money on a single customer.  Maybe it’s the culture there.  The owner may put pressure on the employees and they have no choice but to follow orders or lose their job.  Whatever the situation, I felt sorry for them.  For now, I had to consider my options and decide quickly.  “Okay, thank you,” I said and left.

I could choose the cafe across the street, but I was in the mood for the Spanish omelette this restaurant served.  I headed back to the store to clock back in.  I would wait till the lunch rush was over.

As I walked back into the store, the couple who had left me earlier were at the desk, they had returned, unexpectedly, with the information they needed and were so happy to see me.  We completed the order for their creation and their gift would now be everything they wanted it to be.  Besides that, we had become friends, even if for only a short time that morning.

Always on the lookout for serendipity in my life, I realized, after the couple left, that had I gotten a table earlier or chosen to go to another restaurant, I would have missed those lovely people when they needed me.  Isn’t that just how life works?  That subtle connection that goes unnoticed most of the time is the magic we really should be appreciating.  Is there any doubt we’re all connected?

About an hour later I ventured back into the restaurant.  As I caught the eye of the host, I sensed a flicker of recognition (maybe surprise at seeing me again?).  I smiled and asked if he had a table for me now.  He did, he nodded pleasantly, and led me to a good spot next to a window.  Life is good. The Omelette was great.

Reflecting on how the day had gone, I thought about how it might have played out, had I been offended by the hosts rejection. I would have set in motion a whole different sequence of events. To punish him (in my mind only), I might have chosen to have lunch elsewhere and never go to his place again.  But I would have been punishing myself.  I would have deprived myself of the good food I so enjoyed.  If I had taken the rejection personally and been resentful, my appetite would have diminished and the whole lunch experience would have been soured.  And, most importantly, I would have missed those lovely people who returned expecting to complete their creation with me.  With a hurt heart for the rest of the day, my low energy would have effected anyone with whom I came in contact.

That’s just my side of the experience.  The waiters tip and the income for the owners, which they use to pay employees would have been missed.  You could extrapolate endlessly on the negative vibration that goes out as a result of taking personally, what isn’t personal.

But, reverse that and think of the infinite positive energy that spreads through your body and out into the world, as a result of a joyful experience.  Think of the good health we could each enjoy if we could let things roll off our backs like a duck sheds water.  For today, could we forget all the injustices that we feel from our past that build up and cause negative energy in our bodies and minds?  For just this moment can you clear your mind, imagine you’re a blank slate, with no past?  You don’t even have a name, no label.  Everything is fresh and new.  Even the future doesn’t exist.  Take a deep breath!  Let a wave of freedom wash over you.  Now that’s a positive vibration!

Doesn’t it feel liberating?  Now you are cheerful, going about your day as you see it in the moment.  Stuff happens, you deal with it from a place of interest, curiosity, generosity, understanding and compassion.  Life responds to you with interest, curiosity, generosity, understanding and compassion.  Its a fresh start.  Every moment we have a choice.  The past is gone, why let it effect our present?  The future isn’t here and never will be.  It’s always the present moment.  We have free will. Choose to love life as you are creating it.  Trust nature to respond to your creativity with like vibration.

It is absolutely possible to live this way, no matter what your life is like right now.  Choose new and fresh everyday.  Look at people as if they are new and fresh. Give them a chance to interact with you from a fresh place.  A smile can open the door.

I wish you lovely present moments for the rest of your life,

 

Hugs,

 

 

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Everything Has Its Season

Life is magical, mysterious, wonderous, and miraculous. Lose the magic, and you lose life. It becomes dull and joyless. When you have flashes of wonder, that is the wizard’s touch. The worst curse to befall anyone is stagnation, a banal existence, the quiet desperation that comes out of a need for conformity

– Deepak Chopra; The Return of Merlin

 

Nowhere do I see the fear of stagnation as I see it in the eyes of so many Caregivers.  There’s a battle going on inside, it’s a swimmer trying desperately to keep her head above water.  It feels like you’re drowning, alone.  Will you ever have a life of your own again?  The battle can, if you choose, be seen positively, as a Challenge.  Maybe the greatest Challenge of your life.  The one that brings you the most fulfilling Joy as you take responsibility for finding your way.  As you recognize it as a Season in which you and those you care for are in a dance together. Each finding your own flow with Nature.  Have no doubt, our Season of devoted Caregiving will have its way.  Just like Winter is a prerequisite for Spring.  Your time as a Carer is a preparation for your next phase of life.

Caregiving is not a sacrifice and it is not one-sided.  The laws of Nature are firm.  Struggle, resentment, self-pity, sorrow, and fear will only bring you more of the same.  It’s that stubborn law of attraction.  The only way to live without the fear of stagnation is to accept your Season (in whatever your current situation).  Go with it in the most patient, loving, trusting way possible.  Give all that you have to give and do it with love.  But, not passively.  Be mindful that this is an opportunity for you to grow in spirit.  In your soul. You must ruthlessly take responsibility for everything in your life.  Never, ever, hold a grudge or blame anyone else for your circumstances.   And always see yourself as a magnificent creature in the throes of a human experience and appreciate every moment.  We don’t have to understand it.  It’s too marvelous and so complex and mysterious.  It’s beyond knowing. All I know is what I’ve witnessed through my own observation and experience.  Nature will respond and bring us through our difficult Seasons faster and more easily when we surrender to whatever is happening in any given moment.  That’s the nature of Nature. The law of cause and effect.  There are no exceptions.    

When we embrace our nature as Caregivers, we recognize that our innate desire and ability to help others, to nurture, is a great gift.  The ultimate Feminine is in the human nature of both women and men.  You don’t have to be a woman putting your life on hold (or so you think) while you take care of another person’s every need to be a Caregiver, a Carer. That’s just the stereotype. You know who you are by your life’s experience.  It will never be different.  It’s an archetype. One of the most desirable, in my opinion, because giving out of love is beautiful.  It’s not your only attribute, we humans are composed of many archetypes.  But, like each of our attributes, it is up to us how we use our talents and develop our skills.  We can see ourselves as powerless and without choice, or we can surrender to our current situation and take control by seeking the means by which our personal needs and desires can be met while we do the job we feel compelled to do.

With Love, I hope you go in search of the Magic of Life.  It is there, your desire to find it will lead you to it.

Hugs,

 

 

 

P.S.

If you’d like to share some thoughts or tell me your story, please send an email to me at patricia@caregivingcornerstone.com or go to the “Send a Message” section of my blog. I’ll get back to you promptly.

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