Watching a video about the benefits of meditation the other day, a reference to multi-tasking related to stress caught my attention. That morning, my older daughter had mentioned that she had gotten distracted from our conversation because she was multi-tasking. Synchronicity? When a subject comes up twice my antenna goes up. Was something telling me to write about Caregivers and focusing on the task at hand?
Then, as I sat down to write, A LIGHT CAME ON, oh my, I’m the ultimate offender.
I don’t turn my phone off when I’m meditating. That’s ridiculous! I get one or two calls often, early in the morning, and a text or two. No wonder I’m always frustrated that I can’t get my meditation done early enough. And what would the quality of that meditation be if I didn’t always have the thought in the back of my mind that I may be interrupted at any time? There’s voicemail for heavens sake. Ok. That’s it. Phone off from now on during meditation. It’s a new day. Namaste ;)
Caregiving, like any other important task, requires concentration and focus. After all, we’re often dealing with medications and medical procedures. We shouldn’t be cooking and doling out medication at the same time. Even dressing someone or serving them meals could be more creative and pleasurable with full attention. Tasks that become mundane could be less so if we were paying full attention instead of thinking about all the next things we have to do and becoming overwhelmed. We would have less stress and frustration.
It’s just a thought. If you’re a multi-tasker and life works well for you and those around you, that’s great. Keep going. We’re not all the same. However, if any of this discussion hits home, maybe it’s time for a LIGHT TO COME ON. Maybe life could be more peaceful and enjoyable.
One aspect of this subject that I happen to be working on lately, with visibly nice results, is paying more attention (full attention) to the person with whom I’m speaking. I must admit my mind often wandered and I could feel less than interested in a subject someone else wanted to discuss. I would often be thinking about how I would be able to solve their problem instead of just listening. Sometimes people don’t need to have anything solved. They just need to be heard.
There is real pleasure in knowing that someone with whom you’ve engaged in conversation is enjoying being heard, maybe for the first time in a long time. Their eyes sparkle when they know their words are received with interest. Putting other tasks aside to focus on another human being is most rewarding for all involved. I think we then go on to our next task ready to do a good job, by focusing on it.
It’s Spring, enjoy the season.