Caregiving has many rewards. A sense of being needed, the joy of giving to another, rewarding work, responsibility and often a sense of doing something that is beyond what the average person is privileged to participate in during his/her lifetime. Along with great work in our lives we can all appreciate a sense of joy that comes with connecting to something that is thrilling to us. Joy in your life on a regular basis, in my opinion, should be considered your birthright, like the air you breathe.
How often do you get to experience joy? Do you know what gives you joy? Can you recall the last time you felt the thrill of joy? If you can answer those questions positively, I know your life is good, no matter what your responsibilities or circumstances. You know where to find your joy when you need it, when your cup needs refilling. What we focus on, on a regular basis, is what we create more of in our lives. Creating space for joy will bring more joy, and more space for lovely experiences in your life.
MASTERFUL CARE FOR YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES, the byline of this website, starts with you taking care of yourself first. I hope you give yourself permission to indulge in your joy often.
If you feel a little less than positive about your answers I have a feeling you’re not alone. How many caregivers find the time to even think about doing something that would be just for their own pleasure? Please see this as a possibility. The things that give us real pleasure are often so simple. But we have to make a point of recognizing them.
I recall a sweet friend who, in the midst of my most difficult times right before my husbands passing, offered to come over and sit on the curb outside my house and just be with me for a little while. There wasn’t a lot of joy just then in my life, but I could always find a little time for two things that will always bring a thrill and joy to my life on a regular basis no matter what shape my daily life takes.
My simple pleasures are having coffee with someone I enjoy and can share life’s experiences with on a personal level (I leave feeling somehow restored) and reading books, especially great works of literature and books that make me grow. It was a great sentence I read this morning that gave me such a thrill I wanted to share it with anyone who might have the patience for it and feel thrilled by it, as I do. I hope you enjoy it, nineteenth & early twentieth century writers have such a way with words and a sensibility I miss in modern society. Their writing is often a character study and the study of human nature has for me always been a passion. I had to read it several times to get the full measure of it. Enjoy!:
“Nothing could have been odder than Strether’s sense of himself as at that moment launched in something of which the sense would be quite disconnected from the sense of his past and which was literally beginning there and then.”
– Henry James; The Ambassadors
Please take the time to recognize what gives you joy and find the time to get a little of it each day. Then…when you know how to find it, you could help the person in your charge find what would bring some joy into their life.
I Wish You the Thrill of Finding Joy and Experiencing It Often,