Before We Get Too Serious…

The New Year is going to bring with it all kinds of promises and resolutions, as it should.  But, before we start getting serious about life again, assuming you’ve taken a break like I have for the last few days, can we take some time to remember what it was like to be very young?  Can you think back to what your day was like as a child or young adult; to days when things were less complicated and you cared for just yourself?  I’m looking for a time of innocence, when we didn’t know how much our parents had to do for everyone else, sacrificing themselves in the process.

We were supposed to be self-centered back then, as our children and grandchildren are now.  We were building a foundation that would work itself into patterns of our adult lives serving us later as skills would be needed.  If you’re a man, did you play marbles or with toy soldiers?  Did you play cowboys and indians with friends, or softball?  Or, were computers and electronics the rage, along with more sophisticated sports activities?  In my youth our roles were quite defined, girls would play house, with baby dolls, and pretend to cook like our mothers.  I would sew clothes for my dolls.  I enjoyed cooking as a young woman and sewing became a hobby for many years into my adulthood, until I lost interest and moved onto creating a business and found a husband who loved to cook.

On this day after Christmas, 2013, it’s the peace and innocence that I’m appreciating as I recall the calmness of my days when I had only to decide what scrap of fabric would work best to make an evening gown for my lady doll.  I want to carry that calmness into the rest of my day today.  I want to take that peace and patience with me as I focus on creating bigger things in the new year.  After all, it’s just a bigger game.

As Caregivers we need, more than most, to take time to reflect on anything that helps us feel calm and at peace.  Patience with the task at hand can go a long way toward reminding us that whatever we’re doing at the moment is exactly what we’re supposed to be doing.  We’re building more foundation for what the future holds.  Our future will be much brighter if we’re at peace when we arrive.

Until soon, I wish you love, calm and peace.

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Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

This time of year can be wonderful for all of us if we just take a moment to reflect on the things for which we are grateful.  Every day I’m amazed at how many lovely generous people I meet.  I’m grateful that there are so many kind people in this world who are doing great things for other people.  They’re inspiring and so appreciated.

I live in one of the largest, most heavily populated, diverse cities in the world, Los Angeles, California.  People here are from all over the world, very few are native Californians, like me. Our culture is rich and exciting.  The energy of talent and genius is everywhere.  They call it a vibe.  I’m grateful to feel that vibe daily.

What are you grateful for?  We’re all carrying quite a load, some more than others, because it’s their time.  The journey wouldn’t be rewarding without the challenge.  I would love to hear from you.  Could you tell me what warms your heart on the cold evenings of winter or at early morning sunrise when no one else is awake?  I bet it’s the little things.

Until soon, I wish you love and peace at this wonderful time of year when a moment of reflection can bring more joy than most would imagine.

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays, Everyone.

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An Addition to this website in the New Year


One service I plan to bring to my readers in the New Year is a reference to
websites I feel would be beneficial for the care of their loved ones or
themselves. Some will be about serious matters; such as the one below and
others will be therapeutic or just plain fun.

Please look forward to:
Friends of The Caregiving Cornerstone.

As a preview to that, I want to introduce you to:
American Recall Center

American Recall brings us the latest information about recalled drugs and
medical devices (like joint replacement parts), as well as healthcare &
safety tips.

Please visit this site to familiarize yourself before you actually need it in
an emergency. You’ll be glad you did.

Until soon, I wish you love and very Happy Holidays!

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Everything Is As It Should Be!

If we can accept that whatever is going on in our lives right now is how it’s meant to be, I think it makes life easier. If we’re caregivers and that’s our main job, there’s a reason for that. If we’re caregivers and raising a family, working outside the home, running a business, or whatever, then that’s our journey right now.  Until it’s not.

When I was working as a financial advisor, managing the care of my friend who had Alzheimer’s Disease and beginning the long battle with my husbands congestive heart failure, if I had stopped to think about how overwhelming that could be, I might have become just that, overwhelmed.  It was only when people pointed it out to me that I thought about how difficult it looked.  I was too busy to waste time thinking about how busy I was. I just moved, physically, from one task to the next, as needed.  I made choices along the way that would keep things in control. Eventually, when it got really tough, I made the decision to sell my practice and retire early, even though I knew I wasn’t ready to do that under other circumstances. We have to weigh our options, whatever they are and keep ourselves in balance.  I’ve never regretted my choice because new opportunities presented themselves when the time was right. They always do when you’re open to receiving them.

Maybe the great design of humanity is to hand us what we need to grow into the best human being we can be, so we can evolve. Wouldn’t it be a waste to be here, in this life, and leave, no more enlightened than when we arrived? Maybe it’s our challenge in each situation to pass the test.  You can’t help but grow when you walk through the fire and get to the other side still whole.  And that should be the goal, to stay whole.

We have free will everyday of our lives.  If we can accept our challenge as the place we should be just now, because it’s good for us and going to bring us to a better place, as a stronger person, with more knowledge, more experience, more integrity and compassion, we will stay whole.

There’s a calmness about accepting where you are at the moment. A confidence that opens our minds and brings us energy to receive all we need in order to function at our best, no matter what we’re doing at the moment.  It’s that calmness and confidence that takes us through the roughest of times.

Be grateful.  You’re right where you should be to accomplish the most important events of your life.

Everything is as it should be!

Until soon, I wish you love and confidence.

Happy Holidays!!


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